“I will move on.”
“No, don’t say that. Say, you are moving forward.”
I may have gotten this statement three times already from three different people. I wondered what it really meant. What is the difference between the two?
As said in my previous entry, I just came from a break up. And up until now, I am enjoying the happiness of freedom and detesting the sadness of independence. I had different advices received but those statements above stood out.
They say that saying you’re going to move on is not really the best process. Moving on means you just went on without getting anything from the experience, just so the season would end.
On the other hand, saying that you’re going to move forward is recognizing each step and learning from it.
I am not sure about that up to now. What I have been learning from this experience is whatever you say or however you say it, pain is going to be a part of it. And that is something I value. We live on a fallen world and not having to experience pain just means you are not doing anything in your life, really.
I watched Forrest Gump last month. When Jenny left Forrest to find herself, Forrest ran for three years. I think the character did all the running to subside pain from being left by the person he loves. Even the so-called “stupid” Forrest experienced pain. I empathized with his character. Because right now, I am that Forrest running for three years just for the pain to be expressed.
Pain in this season is the most amazing discovery I had, not the moving on or moving forward advice. It does not leave me defeated, it made me realize that I can empathize with other people experiencing pain. It taught me LOVE IN A DIFFERENT VIEW. This is selfless.